If you get married, then you’ll need to realize just how important proper communication is. However, did you ever consider the possibility that we tend to blame a lack of communication for everything that goes wrong? We just ran out of garbage bags or copy paper, and we immediately think “Oh, oh, someone failed to communicate our needs.” Communication, or the lack thereof, has become our favorite scapegoat, and instead of actually cooperating and fixing our problems, we sit around casting blame. If we were able to stop blaming everything on lack of communication, we would be able to operate much more efficiently.
Instead of jumping to the mistaken conclusion that communication was the culprit, take a minute to stop and ferret out the underlying cause of the problem. Look at the underlying reason as to why you don’t have any garbage bags on hand. Instead of writing it down on your list like you intended, your son skinned his knee and you forgot about it. Maybe you were in the midst of cooking dinner and your husband reminded you but you didn’t pay any attention to him In these particular cases, communication wasn’t to blame. Other things got in the way and you simply tried to find someone else to pin the blame on.
Don’t make the mistake of trying to blame your spouse for everything since it won’t be good for your relationship. Don’t try to blame your husband for reminding you about the bags while you were in the process of doing something else because that won’t serve any useful purpose. Instead of trying to break every problem down into who to blame, you need to resign yourself to the fact that life happens, and no one is perfect, not even you. If you don’t expect too much from people, then you won’t find yourself disappointed.
In general, if people are not communicating effectively, there is another, deeper reason for the problem. If you see that your spouse rarely makes time to talk to you, then you should make the time to see what the problem is. Avoid taking it personally if the source of the problem has nothing to do with you. Your spouse may just be having an issue with someone at work. You should sit down and really try to find out what’s wrong since talking can really help. If you don’t take the time to both talk and listen, your marriage is headed for far greater problems than you’re having now. Doc No. 34Sdlhgsdl -sds
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