Today, breaking up is a little different than it’s been at any other point in history.. Everything we do is public and seems to be open to the world for scrutiny, opinions, and commentary. We live our lives on Facebook, Twitter, and other social media outlets. Privacy is a thing of the past. That makes breakups doubly hard to deal with in the day of social networking.
No matter how closely we try to keep our circles of friends in these social media circuses there always seems to be one or two who worm their way into our inner circles and always have something hurtful to say at times when we’re feeling most vulnerable.
After a breakup is the last point in time when you want to get an ‘I told you so’ from an insensitive, blessedly distant, relative. It’s far better to suffer in silence and avoid the social media sanctuaries that aren’t nearly as restive and supportive as many people in this situation would like them to be.
Never mind the double dagger of realizing that your messages have suddenly been blocked by the one person you once shared everything with. Your social escape has now become a grim reminder of what you’ve lost in the course of your relationship’s demise.
You don’t want the pity of your friends, family, and especially not your frienemies. So, what do you do?
You turn off the computer, put down your cell phone, and find a new direction to follow for the time being. Leave the computer and high tech toys behind. Here’s what you need to do to survive a very public breakup in the world of Facebook and Twitter.
1) Walk away from social media. Don’t go in and put things on hold. Offer no warning. Just take a step back. Put it down. Leave it behind. I know it’s hard. In many ways this has been your support system and escape mechanism for months. It’s time to stop running from the real world and turn to face it. You’ll find this is where your real friends reside and they want to help you get through your breakup on your own terms.
2) Find physical ways to express your emotions. Cyber reality invites us to say things we don’t mean and can’t take back. Don’t fall into that oh-so-tempting trap. Find physical means such as writing your feelings down, kick boxing, writing a song, or burning old photographs as a method of expressing how you feel in a way that’s private, personal, and for your eyes (or ears as the case may be) only.
3) Remember you are not alone. This is the most important thing to remember while you work through your own private heartache. You’re not alone and you don’t have to go through this alone. Face the feelings you’re struggling with a full contingent of friends at your side.
Eventually, your heartache will fade just as the unkind words of (sometimes) well-intentioned people. But you don’t have to wait for time to heal all wounds after a breakup. You can, in fact, learn how to get your ex back and end the pain you’re struggling with once and for all. Start with the free video and the link above and see how quickly your life changes for the better – with or without Facebook in the mix.
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