Parenting is a full-time job which can be verty difficult at times. But the reward definitely is something that cannot be matched by anything in this world. Knowing that you have honed and shaped an individual to be the best person they can be is something that most parents will treasure their whole life. That is why it is very important for them to be able to know the right things to say and not say to their kids to guide them to become responsible and wonderful citizens. And to help parents, here are some tips they need to keep in mind:
Things to Say
• “I love you”. Kids need unconditional love from their parents. And though they say that action speaks louder than words, it is still great advice to say these magic words to your kids once in a while just to remind them of how you feel about them. Giving the proper affection to your kids, even in words, will go a long way and is something that is great in the long run.
• “Thank you”. Not just because you are the parent means that you don’t have to show your gratitude when your kids have done something for you. This not only allows them to learn how to say “thank you”, but also give them a morale boost because it shows how much you appreciate the things they do, no matter how simple.
• “Great job”. Kids always seek approval from their parents. No matter if it is things they will do or things they have already done. That is why it is very important to show your kids that you appreciate the good things they do, even the small ones, so they will know continue to do those things. Giving them positive reinforcement all the time will go a long way in teaching them how to be good people.
Things Not to Say
• “I am the parent/adult, so I am right”. It is a common mistake among parents to say these words to their kids. This attitude of arrogance and selfishness is something that should be avoided if you really want to teach you kids about which is right and which is wrong. It doesn’t follow that you are always right because you are the adult. Learn how to listen to your kids when they have something to say. By learning how to talk to children, you can learn more about them instead of always showing them that you are the superior, which will help them become the best persons they can be.
• “Do as I say, not as I do”. Kids can absord everything they see and hear easily, especially when it comes from their parents. And saying this to your kids is very much like saying it to a deaf person; they will just not understand you. That is why instead of telling them what to do, parents should just show their kids the things that they should be doing and not doing. You want them to stop doing something, then don’t let them see you doing it yourself. It may be a cliché, but it is definitely right to just practice what you preach.
• “No”. Though it is true that it is not good to always say yes to your kids, saying no to them all the time will also give them negative vibes. If you can’t avoid saying no to them, learn how to say it in a more positive way.
Kids are very sensitive, especially on their earlier stages. So it is very important for parents to know what to say and not to say to them. I hope this list can help parents out there to at least start with their journey as the shapers of the future generation’s citizens.
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